Thursday, November 20, 2014

Problems with "The Boy"

He has no idea how close he is to this!
A few days go I posted about Parent's Evening and how that, despite having had a few run in's with the headmistress, Jack's behaviour had improved following a bout of stupidity in school. I said I was proud of him for turning it around. Especially since he had been included in "Friendship Club" as a role model AND earned he role of Narrator in the Christmas Show.

I am officially taking it back!

Last week Friendship Club was cancelled thanks to some awful behaviour from Jack and 2 of the other kids. All three of us mums were spoken to about it. I was livid! I couldn't (and still can't) understand why he would be given this special honour and then throw it away.

(ETA: "Awful Behaviour" included climbing on chairs and tables, screaming & shouting, using "silly" words, rummaging through the teachers drawers, refusal to do as they were asked. I believe there was more but this is the list I was given)

On Monday he should have gone to Beavers but he decided he wasn't going to eat his dinner. Instead he was going to whine, moan, mess about, wind his brothers up... I could go on and on. I told him if he didn't eat his dinner he wasn't going to Beavers. He complained of a poorly tummy at this point. I replied with if he was too poorly to eat he was too poorly to go. He burst into tears, which then turned into hysteria. And then he was sick. I'm still not 100% sure if he was genuinely poorly or if he was sick because of his hysterics. Either way he didn't go. There has been a D&V bug going round school though, so he got the benefit of the doubt. It also meant he HAD to stay off school for 48 hours (school policy on vomiting).

Today he was back at school, having been a perfect picture of health for the full 48 hours (adding to my theory that he was sick from hysterics not a D&V bug). He promised me faithfully that he would be good. Especially as he has been selected to be a narrator in the school Christmas Show - again a great honour, he was chosen because of his exceptional reading skills - and I'd warned him that his teachers would take the role away from him if he couldn't be good.

But sure enough as I went to collect him this afternoon both his teacher and the headmistress where outside the classroom waiting for me. And yes, it was because his behaviour was awful, and yes he was on a last warning for the school play. Just as I had predicted. (ETA: behaviour included poking, chattering, giggling, refusing to stop when asked, silly faces)

But Jack doesn't care. The more he is reprimanded the funnier he thinks it is. He blames everyone else for making him laugh and do stupid things. And I would love to say that he is just copying other kids and pass the blame, or say that the newly qualified teacher might be - or had previously been - too soft with him.... but we all know he needs to take responsibility for his own actions, and take control of him self. This is down to Jack - and to us as his parents.

So I'm taking a hard line. This evening after I had a very stern conversation with him about his behaviour, he has been isolated from the rest of us. He has been in his bed - without toys, games or books. He ate separately from the rest of the family. He did not get a treat after his dinner. He has been told that a bad school report tomorrow means so swimming on Saturday. Likewise he will lose Beavers and Jujitsu for each day I get a bad report. He is missing our trip to meet Santa's reindeer this weekend. In future all day trips and clubs need to be earned. Every. Single. One.

Right now he is being very quiet. He's wisely staying out of my way! But I think he doesn't believe me because he knows I am reluctant to keep him out of a pre-paid activity like his clubs. But I do mean it. I'm annoyed that money will be waisted but I have to take a stand. Reward charts have lost their appeal. We've taken away TV and other technology before and it doesn't have much impact, although now I am cutting technology down across the board! TV will be allowed in the morning AFTER getting ready for school (if there's time) and in the evenings between dinner and bed (again, only if there's time) and any other tech is a treat to be earned. Maybe if it is limited it will become more precious and more deeply missed if lost.

If I get another collaring from the school then I will ask for a dedicated meeting and discuss with them anything more or different that can be done. Because I am running out of ideas, and actually strangling your first born son is frowned upon by social services.



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Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Review: Tens Machines with Labour Diary!

Product Review Diary 

I draw the line at videoing my births and publishing them on YouTube... This is the next best thing though! I've been selected as part of the Pushchair Trader testing panel, which is great! I got the first of my products to review today - July 18th. Two Tens Machines! Perfect as it's my due date in 30 days and I am waiting for an induction date at around 38 weeks pregnant.

26th July 2014

Tens Machines Review BabyCare Elle Tens+ & TensCare MamaTENS on Family-Walker.co.uk
My induction date is booked for 5th Aug, but right now I'm not sure I'll make it. It's just gone midnight and I am poorly and in pain. After a baking hot day - despite being indoors napping through the hottest part - me and my eldest have both been vomiting all evening. I'm blaming heat sroke! And now I have started with near crippling cramps in my belly and lower back. I don't think I'm going into labour yet - doesn't feel like the other three times - but HELL it hurts!

After a couple of hours of intermittent agony, and just before I picked up the phone for the midwife, I thought about the Tens Machines. I'd only glanced at the QuickStart instructions, so I asked Hubby to have a look and set me up. He picked up the first one he came to, the BabyCare, read through it and had me set up within minutes.

Ohhhh sweet relief! He's set it on "pain" and "massage", used just the lower set of pads, and explained how I can control it.

Well.... I'm still poorly and uncomfortable, but I'm not crying in agony anymore. I'm ok to type this on my iPad, and ask for advice on my pregnancy and baby forum instead of calling my midwife and crying down the phone at her. So far I am impressed. Let's just hope that this is a blip! Baby isn't term until tomorrow!

28th July 2014


Well that just shows what I know, doesn't it? Guess who gave birth yesterday?!

After my lest entry I managed to get some sleep. The Tens Machine really helped to relive the pain enough for me to get that rest. It was the early hours of the morning before I woke up again because of the discomfort. I turned the Tens up a notch and started to pace around. These were definitely contractions now and I was timing them with the handy timer on the Tens. I called the maternity unit, got my Hubby out of bed, and got the call out to my mum to come and mind the kiddies.

Nothing quite went to plan though. Baby was coming fast, both Mum and the ambulance the hospital were trying to send me were an hour away. The ambulance crew were staying on the phone and talking Hubby through what to do if baby started to crown. The Tens got turned up again.

Eventually it was evident that the ambulance was never going to get to me in time. My waters had gone, my contractions were less than two minutes apart. The hospital sent me a taxi - we live less than 10 mins from the maternity ward - and I got in. Now the Tens machine was on full blast and constant. It was the ONLY pain relief I had been able to use. When I arrived at the hospital I was wheeled straight into delivery and examined. I was 9 cm dilated already! Just one more to go before the baby was on it's way out! But there was a problem, I my cord had prolapsed and they were whisking me to surgery for an emergency caesarian.

Only at this point was my Tens Machine removed - and when they checked again I was 10cm dilated and ready to give birth. I avoided the c-section and baby was helped out with forceps (and a few lung fulls of gas & air). 9lb 6oz baby boy!

The midwives were very impressed that I had got to the birthing stage with only the Tens Machine for pain relief. I AM VERY IMPRESSED that I got through any of it at all. I doubt I would have been able to be as calm and responsive if I had not had the Tens. I am confident that had they not needed to get me into surgery  and remove the Tens I would have been able to birth my baby without the gas & air.

30th July 2014


As any one with multiple kids will know, the more you have, the more crippling your after-pains can be. So since I've just had my 4th baby you can imagine that I am expecting to be in for a rough time!

I am pre-empting this by getting some use out of the second Tens Machine. After-pains are generally more intense when breastfeeding, so I've simply stuck on the pads and used the Tens on a low setting during feeds. Much better for my peace of mind than chomping on pain killers.

It's doing the job too! After my 3rd baby I had bad after-pains which made me groan and occasionally cry out in pain. But this time I have barely felt a thing.

Conclusion:


Both of these Tens Machines are great. Personally I prefer the BabyCare Elle Tens+ - It got me through a very scary time providing enough pain relief to keep me sane. The TensCare MamaTENS is also great, it's a close call!

BabyCare Elle Tens+ 5 Stars! On Mumii | Rent or Buy One

TensCare MamaTENS 4.5 Stars On Mumii | Rent or Buy One


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Monday, November 17, 2014

Looming Marvellous!


I've been at the Loom Bands again! Well, I have to spend my evenings doing something to stop myself from eating away all the hard work I'm putting into losing weight and toning up!

Over the next week or two both the kids school and Beavers group are looking for contributions to the Christmas fairs, little bits of things that the kids or their parents can buy to raise a little money. So this year - as I don't have any unwanted or unused toiletries or other such things - I am making loom band charms. I hope they manage to sell a few. Even if it's only for a few pence.

I've made a few different coloured snakes - coz they're pretty easy - and now I am starting to try a few more festive ideas, like this little penguin charm. I'd love to say that they are all my own creations, but they aren't. I'm still getting most of my tutorials from YouTube so if you look at the link to my Loom Bands YouTube Playlist and have a go yourself.

I especially like the teddies and trees!



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